How did you know that the number of children you had was the right amount? How did you know when you were done having children? When is enough actually enough?
I'm really struggling with the fact that this might be our last child. When hubby and I were dating I always said I wanted 4 children. We got to 4 and I decided that I wanted 2 more. I have a dislike for odd numbers (yes, I know I'm strange, maybe a bit OCD about numbers).
A few weeks ago I was cleaning up the baby room and it hurt me to know that I wouldn't have another girl to put in the girls clothes that I have left from having 5 girls. It hurts me to know that this might be our last child. My last pregnancy.
How did you know when you were done having children? Am I just having this feelings because I think/know this is the last baby?
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12 years ago
I think it is a hard one , for me when pregnant with number 3 i just knew i was done . He was a boy after 2 girls and i felt it was ok , i had always wanted 4 and hubby 2 so it seemed a good comprimise. When our son was a few months old hubby got snipped.
ReplyDeleteBUT fast forward time and my boy is now 22 months and agreeing to hubby getting snipped is the worst decision i have ever made. It may yet destroy our marriage. I was , no i NEED another child at some point .
Guess what im saying is even if you think you are done you may change your mind - even deciding not to have more when you wanted more.
This is a tough one! I have a thing against odd numbers as well so hubby and I had agreed on 2. Hubby had agreed to get snipped after Q but insurance stalled and we got busy and forgot. Fast forward t late June 2006 when I wasn't feeling right. Hubby just knew I was pregnant. I took a test to appease him and he was was actually right! Within 3 weeks of finding out I got put on best rest. By the time I was 5 months along we knew we were done. My OB (who was awesome) even sensed it and brought up a tubal right after delivery. Him and I had quite a few talks about and decided it would be best since I'd been having so many problems. When I was pregnant with Q I spent 4 months on bed rest and all of my pregnancy with B on bed rest. I knew it wasn't right for me or fair to any one else to have a fourth. Hubby even went in afterwards out of sympathy and got snipped. In his train of thought it was his was of showing his commitment to me.
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